First, I want to comment on something that ChrisA seemed to have glossed over in his detailed description.
For instance, in the example, $3x+5=14$:
- First, decide what to do to both sides (subtract 5)
In my experience as a teacher and tutor, I have noticed that this is not easy for novice Algebraists. However, I have found that there is a way that you can help to make this "decision."
We are all familiar with the order of operations and many of us use the mnemonic PEMDAS to determine which operations to perform in which order when evaluating an expression. This is applicable for evaluating expressions and complicated/fabricated arithmetic problems.
This can be used in Algebra as well, though it is not something that I have seen often. The decision on what to do is the reverse of the order of operations. The two operations which are acting upon $x$ in the given example are multiplication and addition.
(As an aside, multiplication is represented with the $3$ immediately in front of it; multiplication has many forms and these forms may be something that you may want to discuss with your students as well if they have trouble recognizing each of the forms. Addition is represented with the $+5$, though you may wish to have a deeper discussion when dealing with a problem with subtraction, as it can be thought of as either subtraction or addition of a negative number.)
According to the order of operations and PEMDAS, multiplication comes before addition, and if this were a problem with only numerals, then that is the order that you would have to do things. However in Algebra when we solve for a variable, we are attempting to unravel the operations being performed on the variable so we can read the variable alone and use the property of equality to determine its equivalent value. This unraveling is done by observing what is happening to the variable, and performing the inverse operation to be left with only an identity (in the case of multiplication and division, that identity is $1$ while in addition and subtraction it is $0$; this is another topic you may wish to go into more detail about). Because identities provide equivalent values, we often do not write these. It is this reason that in Algebra we reversing the steps of the order of operations and PEMDAS, and because these operations are reversed, so too is the order of the operations. This is why we need to do the opposite of addition (subtraction) first, and the opposite of multiplication (division) second. I have found that making this thought process explicit has helped some of my students more easily determine this "decision."
Do not be afraid to use the technical terminology either (e.g., inverse, identity), as I have found that this actually helps to clarify things.
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Second, there is a lot of value in rewriting the equations in two different ways. I have seen students who prefer each style, so you may want to try both:
Method 1:
\begin{equation} 3x+5=14 \end{equation}
\begin{equation} \qquad \color{red}-\color{red}5 = \color{red}-\color{red}5 \end{equation}
\begin{equation} \quad 3x=9 \end{equation}
Method 2:
\begin{equation} 3x+5=14 \end{equation}
\begin{equation} 3x+5\color{red}-\color{red}5 =14\color{red}-\color{red}5 \end{equation}
\begin{equation} \quad 3x =9 \end{equation}
Using color here with this second method is particularly helpful, and is something that I use whether in a room with a white board or a blackboard.