(Migrated from the math stack exchange, where I received an apt-seeming suggestion to pose the question here, at the math-educators stack exchange)
I introduce my young kids to basic math concepts in the hopes that my armchair enthusiasm for math will rub off on them.
To this end, I've described multiplying as "a special kind of adding where you add a number to itself (however many times)."
In this regard, I've also described that $(n \times m)$ is always the same as $(m \times n)$, and I've explained why using items arranged in rows and columns, an egg carton being an easy illustrative example.
Putting this all together, I've been able to explain, for example, that $3 \times 4$ would be $(3 + 3 + 3 + 3)$ or $(4 + 4 + 4)$, i.e. "3 added to itself 4 times" or "4 added to itself 3 times."
I'm soon about to introduce fractions, and in my mind this is where my explanation, above, seems to falter.
Though my kids haven't formally learned fractions, they understand the concept of certain special, named fractions, such as a "half", and I can tie that to the "$\frac{1}{2}$"-style notation.
Therefore, I can reasonably explain that $(\frac{1}{2} \times 4)$ is "$(\frac{1}{2} + \frac{1}{2} + \frac{1}{2} + \frac{1}{2})$"
I.e. this ties in nicely to my description of multiplying as "adding a number to itself (however many times)" because we're "adding $\frac{1}{2}$ to itself $4$ times."
But something falls apart when I try to circle back to the notion that $(n \times m)$ is always the same as $(m \times n)$.
I.e. "adding $\frac{1}{2}$ to itself $4$ times" is comprehensible...
but "adding $4$ to itself $\frac{1}{2}$ a time" doesn't quite make sense...at least grammatically.
Is my reluctance over the phrase "adding a number to itself a fractional number of times" merely a hangup over English grammar? Mathematically, is there any legitimacy to the notion of adding a number (to itself) $N$ times, where $N$ is not a whole number?
Update: Since my question generated so many "off-by-one" responses, I thought deeper about what exactly I'd said to my kids, and I think key is my phrase "however many times". In my original post, I kind of hand-waved away that phrase, but during discussion with my kids I would have explained in a manner that conveyed that "however many times" is $(n-1)$ or $(m-1)$ "instances" of $m$ or $n$ in the "addition chain". Still clunky, no doubt, but I wanted to clarify that I didn't mislead my kids to a state of "off-by-one" confusion. (I think both the clunky phrasing and the grammatically "off" addition by a fractional amount are nicely addressed by the accepted answer)