I have been tutoring a wide range of math subjects for many years. Recently, I began tutoring a girl in high school geometry (in California, for context). This semester of the course is starting with a pretty standard introduction to geometric proof writing. Her class has learned several relevant concepts including the three properties of equivalence relations (reflexive, symmetric, and transitive), and they are now beginning the section on the triangle congruence theorems (Side-Side-Side, Side-Angle-Side, etc.).
During proof-writing exercises, the teacher has been telling students that statements such as $\overline{AB} \cong \overline{BA}$ are instances of the symmetric property of congruence. I was taught that congruence was an equivalence relation between geometric objects, and therefore, the way that a geometric object is labelled is irrelevant (at least for geometric objects that have no directionality - like line segments). Additionally, I consider the symmetric property to be a conditional statement that requires a premise (e.g. $\overline{AB} \cong \overline{CD}$) to then draw a conclusion (viz. $\overline{CD} \cong \overline{AB}$). As a result, I would consider the statement $\overline{AB} \cong \overline{BA}$ to be an instance of the reflexive property because (a) it relates a geometric object to itself and (b) it is a simple statement rather than a conditional.
I approached the teacher about this since I was certain it must have been a misunderstanding by my student, but the teacher insisted that only statements like $\overline{AB} \cong \overline{AB}$ should be considered reflexive. I understand where this idea might come from since statements like $\triangle{ABC} \cong \triangle{BCA}$ are not true in general. However, such triangle congruences have an implied ordering or directionality that does not exist for a line segment.
Obviously, I will tutor my student to follow her teacher's instructions (even though I disagree with them), but it makes me curious: Is this the standard way in which the symmetric property of congruence is taught in the US? If not, would this be an example of the reflexive property or some other property?